From Resolution to Gifting

The word resolution has come to be thought of by many as a commitment which at which we are bound to fail. Selecting a nearly undoable habit to break or goal to reach creates our own Survivor like challenge even if for the briefest of moments.handswithgiftweb

Instead of resolving to do or not do something in 2017, what if you gifted yourself with an experience? In my life, there are a few times I gifted myself with something so transformative, that the gift just keeps on giving. The top three which immediately jump into my mind are:

Pottery/Ceramics – the day I started throwing clay was not an easy one. In those first few lessons, I thought of quitting it several times but then, I was hooked. And I stayed hooked until circumstances caused me to take a break. But there is no doubt I will return to it. The act of shaping the earth into a new form is thrilling. Playing with form, textures, colors and fire and then waiting for what will happen brought forward creative juices that demanded to be heard.

Feldenkrais – little did I know that the class Larry and I took would be the beginning of a life long journey, but it broke open my constrained and painful life in a way I could not have predicted. As some of you know, I didn’t enjoy those first Feldenkrais Awareness Through Movement classes. There was nothing easy about it for me. And still the healing dream I had the night of the first class probably sealed the deal (even though I didn’t know it at the time). Of course, this experience became not just a gift to me, but to thousands of people that I have and will work with.

Learning to swim – Almost two years ago, I decided enough was enough. I was going to learn to overcome my fear of water and swim. Since then I have been going to swim twice a week. It feels like this gift will keep on giving for years to come. I know my family history with water and my self-image is rewritten every time I show up to swim. Each time I meet another milestone or I feel my body/mind fluidly coordinate around something previously difficult feels like a miracle.

When I reflect on the above items as well as the myriad others I haven‘t shared, most have something key in common: I didn’t start out trying to do any of them by myself. And I think this is important. Connect with someone who has walked the path, knows the process of learning and make a commitment to the experience by making a commitment to the person. People rise to the challenge of Survivor because of the container they are given. So the first gift might be assembling your just right container.

Such gifts take time, at a minimum, and some take money. With my schedule or finances, I couldn’t possible gift myself with a new, transformative experience every year. I feel like swimming will take me another two or three years to fully integrate into my life. And I am happy to gift myself again in 2017 with my personal evolution of this experience.

But enough about my experiences, I would love to hear about yours? How have your gifted yourself in the past, in ways that keeps on giving? Or what are you longing to give yourself in 2017?

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Cynthia is a certified Feldenkrais practitioner, a Senior Trainer in Movement Intelligence, and a co-creator of Integral Human Gait theory. By day, she helps children and adults find easier ways to navigate life challenges and thrive. By night, she is dreaming up new options for how we can all become more fully human through awareness, curiosity, elegance and action.

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  1. This is a simple but huge commitment for me – to listen to my body.

    I want to train myself to listen to when my back aches, or I’m getting frustrated, or I’m feeling mild fatigue, or I’m not enjoying what I’m doing (that covers being with people, marathon cooking, exercising, using the computer, etc.) When I ‘listen’ and ‘hear’ my body telling me that it’s somewhere on the spectrum of not-at-ease all the way to hurting, then I’m going to respond (vs. what I habitually do, i.e. ignore it). The response is simply going to be to step away from whatever (or whomever) I’m engaged in and sit it out for a minute or more. No special equipment needed nor fancy theory to follow. Just plain old horse sense….take a b-r-e-a-k!

  2. lovely sharings Cynthia.
    My ‘gifts’ have included leaving my former job as an employee and stepping out in a solopreneuer practice of Physical Therapy while training in Feldenkrais. The territory was completely uncharted for me and I had no fall back plan, just took a huge leap and trusted it. My practice continues to evolve into a beautiful blending of Feldenkrais informed PT and continues to ‘give’ to me. Each time I am gifted with the honor to work with my precious clients I am yet again renewed.
    What am I longing for in 2017……. I don’t have a clear image of that yet. I am giving it space, and that’s my ‘gift’ to me. My former preference in habit had been to be very clear on where I was going, now my preference is more fluid.
    Thanks Cynthia for the musings!

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    I love “no special equipment”. It’s true you have everything you need although your it may need to be tuned a bit so too get good information pay attention to. What a gift this will be for yourself!

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    Thank you for musing back. It great to hear a bit of your gifting story. And giving “it” space to develop and stay fluid is a lovely gift!

  5. This year’s gifting includes so much for myself and others. I am on a quest to grow as a person while giving to others. The gift of time spent exploring my thoughts, feelings and aspirations while giving of myself to my family and this community is multi-faceted. I want to take steps forward as an independent practitioner, though am tentative with all the details. Time in prayer and dreaming of what outcome will result, gives me the hope to continue on this quest.

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  7. My exercise mat is trying to communicate. Each time I straighten it, it falls over and forwards again….. there may be a message here.

    The words “My self image is re-written”.. stand out particularly from today’s mail.
    I need to re-knit the dropped stitches of my physical life, particularly in art.. will be seeing you very soon.

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    Such a way with words. Funny to have a mat that reflects back the state of one’s physical inner life.
    I will be happy to help you re-knit the dropped stitches.

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